Can We Ever Exact Real Justice?

When we’ve been wronged or had, we have a brutal tendency to try to exact revenge on another party. A lot of times we don’t want to own this feeling, so we couch it in more politically correct words such as “retaliation” or “exacting justice”.

Yet, taking justice into our own hands is fraught with danger. Simply put, we don’t have the clarity to do so, especially if we truly believe in a just God or perfect Truth.

In this video, I share some thoughts from Higher Wisdom on how to handle injustice in our lives, and in society.

Student of Perspectives
Ranjeeth Thunga

The Good Day

An essential component in one’s life system is to nail down what constitutes a good day for us.

What should you do, each day, that will make the day fulfilling for us? What is the quota? What, if we do every day, will we find solace that our day went OK?

Some examples perhaps…

  • Writing one article or post when it comes to sharing your insights?
  • Spending 30 minutes walking around town?
  • Playing for an hour or so with your kids each day?
  • Clearing your inbox daily of emails?
  • Adding one new feature to your website?
  • Drinking 6 liters of water?

What are the different components of your “Good Day”? Work, life, and play?

Write them down! 🙂

Lifestyle Mapper
Ranjeeth Thunga

Corporate Meditation: The Trojan Horse

Meditation brought into corporate culture, on the surface, is a way to relax employees and get them to better focus on doing their job…and increase the bottom line of the organization.

That’s the corporate intent.

But the actual purpose of meditation is to connect one with Higher Consciousness. Whatever word we use for this. Source, God, Truth, Buddha Nature — doesn’t matter.

And thus meditation serves as a Trojan Horse.

When people bring in meditation to serve a decidedly lower vibration motive (perhaps competitive advantage), it will inevitably find a way of transforming into a higher vibration motive (Universal Oneness).

So corporations will become less and less driven by simply the bottom line. The motivations within the corporation will shift. They will shift from selfish ambition towards selfless harmony — moving us to be truly respectful of people, and be truly inclusive of everyone, within the company, and outside the company.

Starting with the employees, to their competitors, to their customers, to society at large. Harmony will be cultivated between all stakeholders.

The corporate structure will transform into something completely different, from within. And the corporate landscape will transform in the process.

Student of Meditation
Ranjeeth Thunga

Loving Our Enemies — Conflict Reconciliation in a Nutshell

“Love your enemies.”

Jesus Christ, Matthew 5:44

Loving our enemies is the essential outcome of any spiritual practice and essential prerequisite to any conflict intervention. It’s the ultimate test of our character as a human being, community, or nation. And of course, it’s the central principle of this work.

Everything else we can play around with and pay lip-service to, quite easily. We can showcase and showoff all sorts of displays of high acts that glorify how much of a hero, saint, or savior we are.

It’s easy to portray how good we are to the poor and downtrodden, the sick and destitute, the oppressed and marginalized. Hollywood, Bollywood, and Tollywood all love to milk this and feed us this stuff of course.

But do we love our enemies? Do we turn to face them? Do we see them as ourselves?

If we don’t, we’re a hypocrite. Hypocrisy is loving only our friends. We have to at least be honest.

Why is it hypocritical? Because in the name of unity, we’ve sectioned off humanity, rather than embrace all as part of our shared reality. We’re causing division when there is only Truth (Love).

We’re all the Same Consciousness. There’s no separation between us and our enemies.

Our mettle is determined by how we treat those who misunderstand us, mistreat us, or condemn us. Our salvation is determined by this as well.

Now the solace is it doesn’t matter how we might be treated in return. It doesn’t matter if our enemies love us back. Nor does it mean we have to be close to them. We can have space between us. Thankfully.

However, what we are called to do is radiate love for them, within ourselves. There’s no escaping this responsibility as a human being.

We can never remind ourselves ENOUGH this critical message.

Perspective Mapper
Ranjeeth Thunga

Owning Our “Ugly” Face

I was watching my daily dose of self-enrichment videos when YouTube’s (brilliant) search algorithm popped this video up. I exceeded my quota for the morning, but I was curious about the person in the video and what he looked like… and I can say, I’m now inspired to write my next blog post on this topic.

Robert talks about his life journey from not fitting in, to owning his decision and responsibility and own who we was, to truly cherishing the qualities his unique look brings to the table.

What people want to consider as disfigured, he’s demonstrated can actually be beauty. When we own the ugly, it becomes beauty. The deeper the apparent ugliness, the stronger our beauty when owned.

This applies to physical features, but also to how we dress, how we speak, how we move, what we’ve fought through, what we’ve overcome, and what value we offer. Every facet of our being, when disowned is ugly, when owned, is beautiful, and when truly owned, we see a path forward

I can relate in my life. Many of my closest family and associates have deemed me too ‘ugly’. No necessarily physically, but in other ways. But the sadness for them is not realizing what’s within. They’re really missing out.

When this occurs, we don’t have to hate those who disown us (which a lot of people resort to). We’re no better and we’ve all done the same in other contexts.

But we do have to inject enough space between us and those who don’t see the beauty of our face… that is part of love. Love and space go hand-in-hand. In fact, one might say the definition of love could be space…but that’s another article at another time. 🙂

But however painful, it isn’t about others, even those closest to us. It’s about us owning who we are for ourselves.

I see each one of our lives as a very beautiful unfolding…so long as we can buck society’s projected ideals and standards…and stay the course. We gotta stay the course till we truly owned the beauty within us. Our Inner Voice compels this, and we musn’t lose sight. I feel blessed to have a process of meditation which helps me tune into Inner Voice within and helps me each day, giving me just enough light to make to the next step. I’ve had lots of setbacks, but I’ve also had this wonderful gift.

If you feel the world sees you as ugly, then you by design have value to offer, simply by owning our ugliness. This will help shake people out of the their biases and prejudices and value systems.

Now the video doesn’t get into the process of how to own our face, but it does show us a beautiful soul going through the process of doing so. “Ugliness” it’s not a strike against us, but a mark of value for us, and the gifts we have on this planet — to shake up the notions of what is essential to value on this planet — to bring to the table who we are.

Perspective Mapper
Ranjeeth Thunga

Society Can’t Guide Us

The moment I realized that the social models and society’s institutions could offer no real direction for me is the moment that I owned the clarity within myself.

Mainstream society, though it offers us trends, grooves, tracks, and models to follow, is clueless as to how we should best contribute to the world we live in. It doesn’t tell us how we can trust ourselves and bring forth our unique value, guided by our Inner Voice, especially if this voice challenges society itself.

Why? Because like any living being, social institutions are focused on self-preservation. The institutions are interested in propagating and promoting themselves. For us to find our own voice outside of their constructs would mean the institutions would lose their grip. They are by design interested in suppressing the voice within us to maintain their illusion of authority.

But, it’s inevitable that our Inner Voice will soon come forth en masse from within many of us. The context of the world is drastically changing the next 5 to 10 years. Jobs, careers, educational models, paradigms of reality, our social landscape — all of it — is shifting. And our static institutions will not be able to keep up.

We are staring at a world that will be unrecognizable a decade from now. Many or most of the models we have on how to do things will be deemed irrelevant and thrown out. Many talk of these changes as approaching some sort of technological singularity. But these changes will also be massive sociological, psychological and spiritual shifts as well. Different facets of singularity, one could say.

And society is not equipped to tell us how this will happen, or what our role is to be. We need to find our compass from within ourselves. This necessitates some form of tuning-in process — some form of meditation or prayer — and a conscious, concerted effort to chart out how we are truly compelled to live, work and express ourselves in the world that is in the process of absolute transformation.

Student of Perspectives
Ranjeeth Thunga

The Center Point

There is a Center-Point in all experiences. Through meditation, we tune our minds towards this Center-Point, allowing our apparent selves to be informed by the wisdom It expresses.

Interestingly, the light that we need to illumine the Center-Point comes from the Center-Point itself, allowing transcendence to happen on its own, to the degree we’re clear this is what’s happening within us.

When this happens, the process seems to reverse. Instead of tuning in, the Center-Point is tuning us.

As we realize the Center-Point is our True Nature, we find there’s no stopping the flow and force and energy that emanates from this Center-Point. Amazing things happen from there.

Student of Meditation
Ranjeeth Thunga

Determining Respect in Dialog

Earlier, I wrote an article on how respect is a prerequisite to any meaningful interaction. There really is no purpose to an interaction, and no fruits can come out of dialog, if there isn’t mutual respect first.

We can look at our recent US Presidential Debates to see how no one’s learning anything from each other, or cares to. Our world lacks the maturity of respecting other perspectives. That’s our collective challenge as a species, and of course the theme of this work. Starting with an honest ownership of when it exists, and when it doesn’t.

This article will be about how to determine if there IS respect to begin with, in order to warrant further dialog. I do believe, contrary to popular opinion, that basic respect isn’t to be earned, but rather to be started with, to move further.

How do we know if someone respects us? And more importantly, how do we know if we respect them?

There are many false flags that confound our perception of respect. I’ll share a few instances that in and of themselves do NOT constitute respect.

  • Effusive praise or compliments.
  • Admiring some qualities of someone.
  • Token courtesies or manners.
  • Liking or feeling comfortable with them.
  • Simple time / attention offered to someone.
  • Simple listening to what someone is saying.
  • Telling someone we respect them.
  • Imagining that someone respects us.

These can all be fine. But these above don’t necessarily constitute respect.

So then, how do we tell?

We can tell respect from not respect at the level of perspectives. We can know respect if another incorporates our perspective into theirs. And we respect another if we incorporate their perspective into ours.

We don’t have to agree with someone. Heck, we don’t even have to like someone. But if we’re integrating their perspective into our own, thereby broadening our perspective, only then are we respecting them, their presence on the planet, and their value in our lives.

All of a sudden we might realize there’s a lot of disrespect out there, and in ourselves. A heck of a lot. We’re so busy trying to bolster ourselves and sell our point-of-view that we trample on the perspectives of those around us, especially those we disagree with.

At the same time, we might realize we are putting up with and tolerating a whole host of negative, toxic dialogs not grounded on respect.

We thus owe it to ourselves to let these dialogs go. Never shutting any out, but simply letting these interactions find their natural space balance — enough space to respect another.

Respect I often use synonymously with love. We can’t force respect, but we can learn to cultivate it, and learn to recognize it, so we can navigate life with far greater clarity and fulfillment.

Perspective Mapper
Ranjeeth Thunga

Distractions and Processing our Feelings

This month I experienced a severe bout of Internet distraction. The flare-up lasted a couple of weeks…but it also indicated to me a long-term pattern deep within me that I am committed to get a handle on.

The frenetic US election and post-election fiasco caused vertigo within me of intrigue, hilarity, and folly, resulting in me checking the latest news and updates to what’s happening throughout the day and night.

Though I call myself a Lifestyle Mapper, and have this company Clear Simple Life, :), I’m by no means living perfect…in fact I know I have many deep blind-spots to expose light into myself.

But my glaring imperfections don’t define me. Rather, I am defined by my commitment to see through and work through everything within me, one at a time.

So here’s what I am more discovering, and what I can share with you.

On a logical level, I know (we all know) that checking the news more than once or twice a day, even in these unprecedented times, for most of us, indicates a level of concern with world events unhelpful and unhealthy for our well-being and those we serve. This compulsion fogs our mind and dampens our energy.

However, on an emotional, reactive level (which we operate on far more than we acknowledge), we feel this compelling drive to check and keep up-to-date with the events of the world a lot, especially during turbulent times.

The circus happening on the national stage is far too tragic, and far too engrossing, to be simply left alone by my mind. And media companies are far too happy to placate this insatiable craving for more news. That’s how they survive…or rather, thrive. They subtly nudge us to keep checking, keep staying up-to-date, keep handing over our mindshare and well-being to them.

But it’s not just news. I took a step back and looked at ALL distractions. This applies just as easily to media of various types, social media, gossip sites, hate sites, movies, TV, and p***. It also applies to a host of behaviors including alcohol, drugs, gossip, food/sugar, gambling, hate, violence. It can also manifest in excess sleep, work, study, or activity — there are many ways we distract ourselves.

Some of these vices are more socially stigmatized than others, sure. but they are all indicative of one thing in common. There’s a universal tendency at play.

What are we actually distracting ourselves from? What we’re distracting ourselves from is processing what we’re feeling in the moment.

This lack of ability to be with ourselves and see through how we currently feel represents itself as distraction in our activity, and as changing the subject in our conversations. It’s a self-loathing… and loathing of our humanity.

We’re loaded with so much on our shoulders it’s understandable why we would seek continuous emotional relief. Society itself is profoundly sick. It might have had us done some really terrible things: when our peers encourage us to self-destructive habits, our government sends us to take lives of others in war without emotional recompense, our authorities tell us to look the other way when causing injustice to groups of people.

Ugliness on this planet, and within our being, is so heavy. So much so that we conclude we do not want to be with ourselves and shut ourselves off from feeling our humanity. We seek to escape from dealing with the feelings. Through one of a number of escape routes.

Distraction due to self-loathing.

What’s the answer then?

Well, first off, we must be clear the answer isn’t some logic or rationalization.

The true resolution comes from a doubling down on what we already know — to commit to being with and feeling through what we’re feeling. It is to consistently make peace with ourselves as we are feeling. Real peace. Proactive peace. Challenging peace. Which comes from processing each and every emotion as it comes up within us through what many would call a meditative process.

There’s no other way through distractions but through the feelings we want to avoid than through the feelings themselves. But the beauty, even just a taste of the joy that comes FROM seeing through our feelings, can keep us anchored within.

Lifestyle Mapper
Ranjeeth Thunga

To Just Breathe…

Whatever knots in your life…

Whatever insults thrown your way…

Whatever misunderstandings you shoulder…

Whatever habits cast you away…

Whenever world doesn’t see your value…

Whenever sun doesn’t shine on your face…

Whenever person doesn’t act with kindness…

Whenever events compel you to chase…

There is always solace,

And that is…

Student of Meditation
Ranjeeth Thunga

“Love Your Enemies” – Jesus Christ

Though I don’t call myself Christian, I love Jesus and the central tenet of this work, and I believe in all of human conflict resolution, is not even our ability, but simply our sincere commitment, to love our enemies… as Jesus taught.

You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor’ and ‘Hate your enemy.’ But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.

Jesus Christ / Matthew 5 : 44

This is unpalatable to a heck of a lot of us, especially many calling themselves Christians, no doubt.

Most of us seem to feel a great revulsion towards this. We rationalize it away or treat it as a throwaway comment that Jesus said… brushing it off and pretending it’s not of significance.

As I see it however, it’s the central commandment of Jesus Christ, and central principle of the Golden Rule.

Love our neighbor as ourselves includes our enemies.

In future posts, I’ll elaborate what “love” means to give us a clearer delineation.

But mind you, I do believe with the strongest conviction that a commitment to “love our enemies” is the single greatest (if not only) representation of our maturity in dealing with conflict.

If we’re lacking this (most difficult) commitment, we’ve missed the very source of power and essence of this work.

If we have this commitment, even if nothing else, we’ve nailed the central gift we offer humanity in peacemaking.

To note: Just because we have such a commitment, it does not mean our journey is ended. Rather, it means our real journey in bringing greater understanding to each other, and in our evolution as a human being, can finally begin.

“Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God.”

Jesus Christ / Matthew 5:9

Perspective Mapper
Ranjeeth Thunga

The Source of Good Health

A lot of us have the notion that good health means keeping our body in shape — eating nutritious food, exercise our muscles, and getting enough sleep.

Of course…all of these are good. But these fall by the wayside, more often than not, when we try to become more healthy. It’s especially tough when our pursuit of good health gets mundane or boring, especially when it seems our progress feels stagnant.

So it’s clear there’s a deeper source for good health we then start to tap into — good mental health or inner health. One might see this as cultivating a grateful attitude, a proactive approach to life, and owning our addictive tendencies. This inner work is good. But sooner or later, our attitude and energy might give out as well and we hit a rut. Good mental health, in and of itself, is unsustainable.

So what is health really based? What is deeper than physical or mental health? What is the source of real, consistent health?

I find real health starts with tuning into the Source within us, accessible through a prayer or meditation practice. This Source doesn’t change, doesn’t go up or down, never gets stale, and is 100% reliable.

As we tune in, over time, other aspects of our health naturally fall into line and we become more physically and mentally healthy. And we more and more recognize what’s truly healthy or not — what our body and mind really needs — or needs to go through.

This might take its sweet time. Years or decades even. And on the outside it might look like we’re not caring about health. But we will get there, without question, as we’re tuning into what’s at the center of not just health, but life itself.

(Check out my sister site primemeditation.org for more on my experience and journey with meditation.)

Lifestyle Mapper
Ranjeeth Thunga

Focus on Trauma 2021+

Over 2020, in line with the changes we’re going through as a planet, the fundamental premise of the work of Perspective Mapper is refreshed with the premise of processing what we actually feel within.

We need to be able to feel each other’s trauma as our own to be able to transcend and work through the conflict on this planet.

This work is really emotional / spiritual work, not intellectual work.

Working by sifting through unending streams of data, numbers, frameworks, theories, and analytics about conflict does not resolve conflict, fundamentally.

I’ve uploaded a new audio message:

Perspective Mapper
Ranjeeth Thunga

“Spiritual Teacher” as Ego

Certainly earlier in my journey I had an urge to teach people around me what wisdom and path they should take up. But as I mature, I’m less and less inclined to do so.

As I more and more own the sheer amount of reactions, blindspots, questionable choices, fogs and limitations within my own life to see through, I less and less feel capable of being able to teach anyone anything as it relates to spiritual practice.

Who am I to teach someone? Who am I to know what another has to go through and learn, especially if I have so much to go through myself? I’m no one to be doing so. But…it’s clear that coming to such a conclusion actually IS a sign that we should be sharing our inner insights with others.

Teaching is a noble desire. No doubt. But we’re all burdened and blind in so many ways, not one of us can really see past our own biases. So a wanting to teach others is very often an expression of our own ego or doubts. But when we come out of this wanting, we actually find a new, healthy way of sharing.

There’s a subtle but essential difference between ‘teaching as natural sharing’ and ‘trying to teach someone’ that distinguishes healthy mutual growth from an egoic power play.

We can certainly feel it. When someone is freely sharing, we open up. When someone is trying to teach us a lesson, we recoil.

As we transition from one who ‘wants to teach someone’ to one whose teaching is a natural, genuine sharing of insights and struggles, we feel a natural clicking into the right place. And we’re where we need to be.

Student of Meditation
Ranjeeth Thunga

What is Real Success?

I define real success as living in alignment with our Deeper Self… as consistently as we can.

That’s it. When we are living from this perspective, despite struggles or strife, we are most satisfied inside and of greatest value to each other.

But, we’re often misled by society.

We’re told success is how much money we have, houses we build, or cars we own. We’re also given the message that success is defined by the visibility, followers, scores, ranks or bullet points we achieve. We’re even told it means we’ve mastered certain skills or do things perfectly according to some criteria.

These are all fine and good. But these are what we should only call “external validators” — not real success. These can validate our worth according to current social standards of what we can measure, value, see, and reinforce. But they fail to validate our life with the Highest Truth within us.

And, regardless our worldview or belief system, we can all agree that what society values, and how it measures us, is often not sufficient in describing our value, nor is it correlated with what’s best for us or others.

There’s a place for such external validators. Definitely. They give us leverage. No doubt. But they can’t guide us. Actually, the decisions and paths we quietly respect most, I find, are the ones that decidedly aren’t led by pursuing them at all.

The more we’re able to place external validation in its rightful place is the degree we can really succeed. And have real fulfillment. And be of real value. In what really matters.

Lifestyle Mapper
Ranjeeth Thunga

Walking Through Judgment

It seems nothing inhibits our progress more than recurring judgments in our mind.

Whether the judgments come our own expectations, or from others who project stuff on us, they can debilitate us.

Judgments are voices in our head that are telling us we’re off-track, being wrong, or simply not worthwhile. And they seem to come at the moments we need to most be on our toes.

As opposed to honest criticism, which works to uplift us, judgments are never satisfied and can never be satisfied. They exist to throw us off and fall into a cavern.

Sometimes we have a supportive community and family that helps us strip judgment from our mind. Other times, our very community and family might work against us, feeding us judgments to swallow.

If we’re fortunate, we have less. If we’re not, then we have to deal with more. In my case, I have a large load of judgment I’m gracefully working through. But even the most fortunate of us will have some amount of judgment to see through… our world simply is that way.

Accepting this non-sugar coated reality is tough, but essential.

Seeing through judgment requires tapping into the Deeper Voice within us. It’s a voice that can see clarity in the fog. For me, I tap into this voice through simply being aware of breath in any given situation. Others will have their own prayer or meditation to do so.

And to the degree we’re tapped into this Deeper Voice is the degree we’re able to, one by one, step out of judgments, taking one step at a time to more fully express our potential in our life.

Lifestyle Mapper
Ranjeeth Thunga

Is Productivity the Holy Grail?

In our current day-and-age, we worship productivity. We give it so much value as if an ultimate life ideal. So much of our efforts in business is about being more productive. It’s almost synonymous with what defines a good employee or successful human being even.

I remember in my earlier days the aspiration to transform into a learning machine. Lol. The thirst was insatiable.

But…let’s take a pause here. What does productivity even mean?

That we’re able to send out twice as many emails, study five times as many books, have ten times as many phone calls, write eight times as many articles? Eat five times as much food (joke!)? 🙂

Are we more successful because of this? Is our life more meaningful? Are we actually expressing more value because we’re more productive?

Let’s take a step back and look at what the word “productive” actually means? It means “produce” more.

It doesn’t take more than a few seconds for us to (perhaps) realize that while producing more might be good and desirable at times… in and of itself it doesn’t equate to true fulfillment for ourselves or genuine value to others.

Being productive, in and of itself, has no inherent value.

And if life fulfillment or authentic value to others is our guiding light for the lifestyle we want to live, we’ll take a step and say, no I don’t want to place productivity as my highest ideal.

Rather, I seek to be fulfilled and provide real value to others.

So as I switch my perspective and design a life around being fulfilled in my life, rather than productive, I feel better.

We might feel like responding to far fewer emails, but writing more thoughtful ones. We might be initiating far fewer conversations, but having more substantive ones. We might get far less done during the day, and things might be far longer to ‘get done’… but savoring what we’re doing more and producing work that is of real long-term or even lifetime value to others.

Life becomes more meaningful.

Lifestyle Mapper
Ranjeeth Thunga

Perspectives are NOT ‘datapoints’

We’re taught since our early school days — certainly in our colleges — that the more ‘data’ we have, the more informed we are, and the better decisions we make.

Many of the past iterations of this project revolved around, or tried to revolve around, the collecting of data of different perspectives.

In this age of explosion of data, does it really seem like our ability to process conflict is better? Umm… well, sometimes, and sometimes not.

This is evident in that even with so much data around us, we have extremely conflicting interpretations of the same data, to the point where data can often be seen as trivial in actually resolving conflicts we have between us.

The more data we have does NOT equate to understanding — really understanding and really empathizing with — other points-of-view.

To do so requires almost an opposite process. The process of letting-go of data and tuning into the utterly simple, unencumbered, self-evident Truth within us. This allows us to feel what another is experiencing.

Practices include what we might call prayer and meditation…and mutually respectful dialog with those who see things differently than us.

That Transcendent Truth is the same within all of us…and represents an intelligence that’s infinitely greater, and infinitely more empathetic of other points-of-view, than any data we have.

So is data useless? No, not at all. It can certainly open us up to another perspective. But that said, data is highly insufficient and potentially misleading — or even sociopathic — as it can obscure the felt connection we have to the deeper Truth within us, and the shared humanity between us.

Perspective Mapper
Ranjeeth Thunga

Man-Tra

Let’s break down what the Sanksrit word “mantra” means.

The syllable “man” means thoughts, and “tra” means release: thought-release.

Whenever we recite a mantra, we are engaging in a process of releasing our thoughts, thereby tuning into a Higher Intelligence within us.

A mantra can be a word, phrase, sound, rhythm or even breath. Since our breath is universal and always on, so to speak, it makes for a really suitable mantra.

Meditation and mantra are thus, perhaps, synonymous.

Student of Meditation
Ranjeeth Thunga

Real Kindness vs. Fake Niceness

Nothing can be as heart melting and soul touching as genuinely kind behavior. When we experience real compassion, our judgment drops, our barriers come down, and we get a glimpse of otherworldly beauty, within our human existence.

But sometimes this doesn’t happen. We sometimes don’t trust or let in kindness. We might associate it with with naivety or weakness. We see how it can masquerade as different things in different ways. Justiably so in many cases…

  • Why are we being nice? We might use it as a shell to protect themselves and their true feelings. It’s an image we put up to look good, hiding our real feelings underneath…but such niceness is weak.
  • Other times, it’s because we have an ulterior motive. We might be nice to get something. It could be money, attention, favor, or status. The moment we stop getting it, our niceness goes away. Such niceness is not real.
  • Even other times, we might be nice simply out of habit. It’s how we were taught to behave…and we don’t know better. Such niceness is ignorant.

But, just because there are so many false forms of niceness doesn’t diminish the value of real kindness.

How to tell?

Simply put, real kindness is unconditional.

Real kindness applies when we are happy or stressed. When we feel confident or insecure. When we feel disturbed or at peace. When we even like the other person or don’t. When we are praised or attacked.

It applies what we feel when people are around or no one is about.

It’s not always easy. We don’t hesitate to be nice to those who can offer us money, security, and standing. And it’s taken as obvious to be kind to young kids, physically disabled folks and the elderly. But especially touching is kindness towards those who might consider our outcasts, the troubled, our enemies, or even those who do evil.

Kindness towards those that might churn up difficult, conflicting feelings within us…

Kindness towards those we don’t even want to be kind to…

But therein lies the whole secret, doesn’t it? If we’re able to be kind with everyone, then we know our kindness is real.

If we’re not…then we gotta be brutally honest with ourselves that our kindness is at least partially an image or façade we keep up, which fools others, or worse, ourselves.

But of course, even that’s ok, as it’s essential to be kind to ourselves as well. 🙂 Only then can we work through this… see through this… as we’re all in this together.

The age of putting our perspectives as supreme and our desire to put ourselves above others is coming to an end. Genuine kindness, reaching out to our fellow human being, across the party line or across the battle line — the time is ripe and ready quality for cultivation, and the real gift we can offer each other as human beings.

Perspective Mapper
Ranjeeth Thunga